Are you an emotional eater?
Through my own healing process of emotional eating, I learned that until I was willing to call it what it was, there was no chance for me to overcome it. If we want to exercise those nasty craving demons, we must first name them. So, be brave, faithful warrior, this questionnaire is for YOU if you are ready to step into the truth of who YOU are and courageously meet yourself right in the depths of the shadowy things you've been hiding from, because that’s how you are going to come alive! Know that you are not alone because it’s been found that 70% of us are emotional eaters!
This quiz is from the book, Trim-Life: Diets Don't Work, the Power of the Mind Does, by Dianne Zimberoff. If you'd like to know more about Trim Life, click here.
Do you constantly think about food or your next opportunity to eat?
Have you made mistakes at work or school because you were thinking of binging on food?
Do you spend too much money on food?
Do you plan your day around getting food?
Do you have a need to binge after a period of time when you could not eat?
Do you finish before everyone else or feel like you inhale your food?
Do you eat your food in a ritualistic manner?
Do you go to the store for one thing and come out with extra?
Have you ever eaten something that normally you would find disgusting: stale cookie, something you’ve put in the garbage, a still-frozen pizza or pie?
Do you hide food in the house, drawers, your car, your desk?
Have you ever made excuses for overeating?
Have you lied about how much or how little food you had eaten?
Do you get angry if someone comments on your eating or weight?
Have you become verbally abusive or avoidant with family or friends because of their comments about your weight or food?
Do you see yourself as thinner or heavier than others see you?
Do you feel confused when over- or under-eating?
If you feel fat, do you think that you are no good?
Have you been embarrassed by someone catching you binging, purging or throwing away your food?
Have you stopped eating/fasted for two days or more to control eating/lose weight?
Have your values been compromised?
Have you experienced an increased tolerance for over-eating, i.e., does it take more and more to satisfy you?
Do you experience periods when you cannot stop eating except by interruption or sleep?
Have you tried several weight loss/food control methods or diets?
Have others expressed concerns about your eating, weight or behaviors around food?
Have you experienced the shakes, tremors, feeling as though you may pass out?
If you eat sugar or carbohydrate foods, do you crave more?
Have you ever put food (getting or avoiding it) before a friend, spouse or child?
Can you think back to times as a child or now when food seemed like a friend or enemy?
Have you identified an emotional emptiness that seems to get bigger each time you over-eat?
Do you feel shame about your eating or not eating?
Do you go through drive-throughs so people won’t see you or go to different places so you won’t be recognized?
Do you experience a ‘high’ when you eat?
Have you been unaware of finishing an entire container of something until after it was all gone?
Are there times when you hate your body or parts of your body?
Have you wished that you would die to end the circle of eating and dieting?
Is it difficult or impossible for you to leave food on your plate?
If there is something in the house that you enjoy eating, do you think about it so much that you finally have to eat it?
Do you feel as if food controls you, rather than the other way around?
Have you ever or do you now binge and throw up?
I am not going to tell you that if you answered yes to ten questions, you, my dear are an emotional eater. No, I think these questions are powerful and simply by reflecting on them and dropping down into your body to notice what you feel as you read them and you'll know if emotional eating is eating you. Do you feel 'caught', shame, sadness, hopeless? And if you think your answer is yes, consider working with a coach or other expert who can help you overcome it. Take it from me, you can heal your life and you can have a healthy relationship with food and your body!
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Are you an emotional eater?
Whenever we find ourselves measuring our success or failure by how well we follow the rules, we are operating from a place of fear rather than freedom. The ultra-chic Paleo diet is based on a one-size-fits all approach to health. It parades itself through the streets of the dieting and wellness kingdom as the final answer that will solve all human quests for truth and longevity. And anytime we get stuck in the rut of thinking WE have found the ultimate answer, we are cooked, pun totally intended!
This is not to say that the Paleo diet does not have some great ideas to offer. It encourages us to get off of all processed food, yay! It encourages us to stop eating grains and legumes (may be good for a short time for some or a long time for others), but how does someone else even know what is going to work in my body or not? It does inspire many people to completely change their diet, usually for the much better, and to experience significant weight loss (but I notice many gain it back). It gets people eating a lot more veggies, woohoo! It gives people a framework to work within and a good starting point. But, I see many flaws as well, and most of the flaws I see are equally flaws with any overly strict eating regimen.
The first flaw I see is that following an eating plan to perfection typically lacks balance and freedom and sets us apart from others and often-times gives us a feeling of superiority. And if you think long and hard about this, why do we need a feeling of superiority? Well, for one, it gives us a false sense of feeling powerful and if we need a false sense of feeling powerful, well, in short, we must feel pretty powerless in our lives. So, any strict eating regimen can make us feel better-than but it can't solve the root issue which is that we don't actually feel powerful or noticeable or important or we don't have a place to belong and we are just looking for a false way to cover over the real issue.
Next, when we think we have found THE answer, this closes us off to other possibilities. It creates a state of mind that only allows us to play the game of life within a certain size playing field and anything outside that playing field becomes off-limits, which creates a limited experience of living. It also creates a feeling of righteousness or 'rightness' which inevitably leads to seeing anyone outside of our limited scope of vision as 'wrong'. This creates a sense of separation. And so, then we might want to look at why we feel a need to create a sense of separation between ourselves and others. Hmmmmmm.
Thirdly, if we subscribe to 'one way' thinking, especially when it comes to our food choices, it actually creates a disconnection between ourselves and our bodies. Instead of listening to the needs of our bodies, we are following a predetermined set of rules that may or may not be right for us. We are each created biochemically individually. Some of us do well with more carbs and some of us do well with more protein. Some need a good amount of fat, like me. Some will get well on a Paleo diet, others will become sick. It is much more important to learn to tune into our own bodies than to follow someone else's prescription for health.
Of course, it is possible to eat a Paleo diet and be healthy and be doing it for healthy reasons. The tell-tale sign will always involve balance. The important thing is to become curious with ourselves. What is really the motive behind our motives? It certainly is not wrong to eat Paleo and Paleo certainly is not the end-all be-all diet for everyone. I eat very healthy because I want to take good care of myself and feel well. But I also have a lot of freedom in my relationship with food and that freedom took many years to acquire because it involved being courageous enough to wipe the mirror clean and become very, very honest with myself. When I did that I saw that how I looked was where I got my sense of worth. So, it involved finding my worth, not getting more strict with my eating.
The Paleo diet is a very high protein diet and there is now evidence that this kind of a diet (consisting of more than 100 grams of protein per day) can actually promote cancer growth because of the increase in IGF-1 hormone in the body. This is our growth hormone and too much of it may actually cause tumors to grow.
If we have poor digestion, this diet can be very hard on the body and cause inflammation in the gut. Inflammation is the root of may diseases, so we need to be easy on our body in this regard. If you are eating Paleo, I highly suggest adding fermented foods into your life to improve your ability to digest all of the protein.
For me, disorder means out-of-order. Our eating is out-of-order when we eat for reasons other than physical hunger, when we eat so we can get outward approval or when we don't eat when we are hungry. If you eat when you are not hungry or you keep eating when you are full, these are also signs of our-of-order eating. So, if you find yourself stuck in any out-of-order way of eating, I encourage you to notice it, and notice any shame or judgments that you may be feeling right now, and just get curious about why you feel a need to be so restrictive in your life. What is the bad thing you are afraid will or won't happen if you find balance in your relationship with food?
If you'd like to do some discovery work in this area, feel free to set up a complimentary consultation with me here.
Lemon is one of my go-to oils because it's inexpensive, its known to be a disinfectant, anti-tumoral, antibacterial, antiviral, liver cleansing, mood uplifting, stain removing, anti-blemish, anti-wrinkle, food flavoring, immune stimulant, amazing oil with so many uses! Did I mention it's inexpensive too?
I love adding lemon oil to my diffuser in the morning because it is very energizing and uplifting. It also is shown to disinfect the air I breathe!
I also start my day by adding a drop or two to my water. The oil is cold-pressed from the rind of the lemon and it takes 3,000 lemons to produce 1 kilo of oil, so it's highly concentrated. Lemon oil is detoxifying and contains high levels of d-limonene which is shown to be a powerful tumor inhibitor.
Lemon oil can also be used in place of Goof Off! Just rub a couple of drops where there is sap, gum, or label residue. Works like a charm!
For a simple lemonade you can combine 2 drop lemon oil, 2 TBS honey and 2 cups water, adjust amounts for your personal taste.
Always use oils in glass, not plastic containers! Do not apply citrus oils to skin that will be exposed to the sun because it may cause burning. Do not use near eyes.
Use cold mist diffuser to mist into the air to lift mood and disinfect the environment.
Apply a drop to blemishes or wrinkles as needed.
Rub on cellulite to help cellular detoxification and possible elimination of cellulite.
For a free guide called, 120 Uses for Everyday Essential Oils (My favorite ones I use daily!) and for information on why I only use the highest quality grade A Therapuetic essential oils from Young Living, go here. You will also find out how to order this oil and my other favorites if you are interested!
Chichen Itza, Mexico 2015